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After He Leaves You for Another Woman, Will You Still Have Sex With Your Husband?
Maybe
I belong to a support group for women whose marriages broke up after their husbands or boyfriends cheated on them.
We were recently Zooming, and one of us mentioned that she and her soon-to-be-ex husband had just had sex. He’d stopped by to pick up some stuff he’d left in the basement — and they’d ended up in bed together.
“It’s not cheating,” she said. “After all, we’re still married.”
Most of the group agreed. Even if your ex -husband is now living with the woman he left you for, you’re still married, which means that he’s still the one person who by law you are totally allowed to get down with.
And several members of the group admitted they’d done just that.
Why?
“He’s a jerk — but he’s still good in bed.”
“Even after he divorces me and marries her, I’ll probably still have sex with him. Don’t get mad, get even.”
“Our sex life is actually a lot better now that he’s married to her. Go figure.”
Not all of us have had sex with our exes. (I haven’t.) But all of us did think that the Other Woman’s belief that infidelity couldn’t possibly happen to her was hilarious.
“He left his marriage for her,” scoffed one member of the group, “and now she’s convinced that he’ll never cheat? Where is her brain?”
None of us felt that it was our responsibility to make sure our former sweetie remained faithful to the babe who used to be his side chick. And if Mr. Infidelity still knows how to push all your buttons in bed?
Why not go for it?
In a perfect world, of course, you’d throw the cheater out, move on and never look back. But, just in case you hadn’t noticed, this isn’t a perfect world. You continue to move in the same circles. Or live in the same small town. Your paths are going to cross and re-cross. Especially if you have kids.
And? The illicit thrill your partner once got from sneaking around now attaches to you. Suddenly, you’re sexy forbidden goods. That can be quite a turn-on.
