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I Still Miss My Ex
Four Years After I Caught Him Cheating and Threw Him Out
It’s been four years since I discovered that the man I’d loved and trusted for twenty years had a secret girlfriend for over a decade.
When I stumbled upon the evidence that Mike was in love with Maggie, he insisted that the affair was my fault. He had turned to Maggie, he explained, because I had refused to marry him.
Mike was a man with no work ethic who couldn’t hold down a job. He was also a smoker with no health insurance. Because I loved him, I learned to accept these things in order to be with him. Still, no woman in her right mind would have married the guy.
That’s not the way he saw it.
“Are you saying,” I asked him, “that having a ten-year-long secret love affair was a reasonable response to my refusing to walk down the aisle with you?”
“Yes,” he said.
He had no remorse about the affair itself. He was just very sorry that he’d gotten caught. It’s not as if he had a crisis of conscience, told me…
