In a way I was lucky that I totally trusted him -- for 20 years -- and had absolutely no doubt that he loved me and would never hurt me -- until I stumbled upon hard evidence that he had a secret girlfriend. And threw him right out.

I took lots of time and lots of therapy to recover from the shock and pain of that. But when it came to my 20 years with him?

Ignorance was bliss. I had a great time with him and loved him dearly.

Until I finally learned who he really was.