It is the betrayal of trust and the lying that is not okay. For over a decade! When he began courting Maggie , he had the option of being honest with me about the fact that it wanted to pursue her. We could have agreed that our relationship as lovers had run its course and continued on as friends. To have a secret girlfriend behind my back for over a decade is just wrong and creepy. If you long for another woman? Be honest about it and get out!