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Love, Infidelity and Facebook
Facebook Wrecked My Relationship, Then Facebook Consoled Me
Four years ago, on Tuesday, July 26th, I posted this status update on Facebook:
So what do you do when you learn that the man you love and trusted for 20 years has had a secret girlfriend on the side for the past decade? You break up with him, change your relationship status on Facebook and then try to get on with the rest of your life.
However lousy your life may be today, just be glad you’re not me.
Mike was smart and funny and I loved him dearly. The one thing I knew for absolute certain was that he loved me truly and well.
Until I found out about his other girlfriend.
After a decade of perfect cover-up, he slipped up and left this private Facebook text to Millie on my computer: “I love you and I have always loved you.”
After Mike came clean about the affair and I showed him the door, I shared the news on Facebook. Why? Instead of spending the day breaking the awful news to friends and family, I just had to post it once and everyone would know. Isn’t that exactly what Facebook is for?
The first responses to my post were immediate and heartfelt:
