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My Boyfriend Cheated With a Married Woman
Would You Tell Her Husband?
Four years ago, when I discovered that the man I’d loved for 20 years had had a secret girlfriend on the side for the last 10, I knew what I had to do. I threw Mike out, changed the locks, got a good therapist, and, with the support of my friends and family, I moved on.
I was left with just one question. But it was a big one.
Should I tell Maggie’s husband?
Yup, Mike’s side chick was married. Mike and Maggie were double cheaters. For a decade, he’d cheated on me and she’d cheated on her husband.
They kept their affair well hidden. Their secret relationship flourished until I stumbled upon evidence of their intense, passionate union.
That’s an experience I don’t recommend to anyone. You’ve been with a guy for decades. You think you know him. You love him. You have no doubt that he loves you. Then you discover that for years he’s been in love with somebody you’ve never even heard of.
Learning about the affair was one of the worst moments of my life. I was shocked. Horrified. It felt as if the Universe had gut-punched me.
So — should I tell Maggie’s husband? Should I give him his own eye-opening devastating gut punch?
