You Can’t Fall in Love with Me — I Don’t Cook!
Why is This a Dating Deal Breaker?
Jeff was engaging, funny and successful. After meeting through a dating site, we enjoyed a number of email exchanges and several phone conversations. We were really connecting. Until I mentioned that I don’t cook.
There was a pause. “What do you mean, you don’t cook?” he asked.
“I mean that I don’t cook.”
“Not at all?”
“Nope!”
“How can you not cook?” he asked. “What do you eat?”
“I eat takeout. I throw together a salad. I eat out.”
“But you don’t cook?” he asked plaintively. “Ever?”
I could feel the energy draining out of the conversation. And it wouldn’t be the first time.
Most men seem to expect women to be able to cook. Specifically, men want women to prepare them a delicious home-cooked meal. It wasn’t that Jeff loved spending time in the kitchen. He didn’t. But? He expected me to.
“You’ll never get a home-cooked meal from me,” I told him. “If you need a woman who will cook for you, you’re going to have to find someone else.”
And he did.
